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Who is the most important person in your relationships? You are!

Yes, whether you realize it or not, healthy relationships start with healthy people. If you don’t grow yourself, take responsibility for your own issues, develop your own character, and keep yourself spiritually, emotionally, and even physically healthy, your relationships will suffer.

Quite often relationships come to a standstill—a stand-off—because of a terrible tendency we all have—the tendency to place the blame for relationship problems on the other person. It’s always easier to adopt the “villain—victim” mindset. And the common view in relationships is that we’re the victim and the other person is the villain.

While there are times and situations when and where we find ourselves dealing with very bad people—true villains—in most of our relationships, our problems are the result of two sinful, broken people who need to pay attention to their personal growth and maturity. When two people in a relationship stop blaming one another and start responsibly owning their brokenness and failures, hope for improvement comes.

Look at what Jesus said about this in Matthew 7:3-5 (NLT) “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.’”

Who is the most important person in your relationships? You are! When you’re healthier and holier, your relationships get happier!

Pastor Dale