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Everybody needs friends. The best way to have friends is to be a good friend to others. What’s one of the best ways to be a good friend? By listening. We need to be people with good ears!
The Bible is the best relationship manual that exists. Take a look at what God says about listening in James 1:19 (NIV) “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”
In this verse, there is one “quick” and two “slows.” The one thing we’re told to be quick about is listening! Our promptness in listening to others helps us build healthy relationships with others. We need good ears!
Here 7 actions and attitudes that will make you a better listener:
• Be sincerely interested in others. You can’t fake true listening.
• Make eye-contact, positive tones in your voice, and a body posture that communicates “I’m paying attention to you!”
• When someone is talking, encourage them with phrases like, “Tell me more!” or “That’s interesting.” Let them know you’re tracking with them and are interested in them.
• Ask follow-up questions, without interrogating people.
• Give feedback on what you’re hearing—affirming what you’re hearing and seeking greater clarification on what’s being communicated.
• Stop personal conversations in your mind when someone is engaging in in conversation with you—stop thinking about your reply or your story and listen to them.
• Practice, practice, practice listening. The practice will make you better!
One of the keys to strong friendships is the ability and willingness to be a good listener. Develop good ears, and you’ll have some good friends!