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You’ve probably already filled in the rest of the phrase—flock together. From what I read, it’s a statement going back to the mid-1500s. It proves something interesting; likes have been attracting likes for centuries—for all of human history.
This adage describes the law of attraction. Like attracts like. You like to be around people you like, who are like you! Got it?
This is all well and good if you’re a spiritually and emotionally healthy person. This means you’re more likely to attract friends who are the same. This is how healthy relationships get healthier. Two spiritually and emotionally healthy people create healthy relationship momentum. You spiral up together, instead of down together.
The opposite is also true. When we’re not healthy on the inside, or have destructive habits, similar people will show up at the doorsteps of our lives. Usually, this isn’t a good thing. As surely as health feeds on health, dysfunction feeds on dysfunction. The first place this shows up is in our friendships!
So here you go. If you don’t like your friends, if you need to change the kind of people you have in your life, start by looking in the mirror! Yep, this is the hard but helpful truth. You can’t change the law of attraction; it’s a law. You can change the thing doing the attracting! This would be you!
There’s Someone who is able and eager to help you become more healthy, spiritually, and emotionally. His name is Jesus. He specializes in changing people from the inside out. Paul, the apostle, reminded us of this in 2 Corinthians 5:17 (TLB) “When someone becomes a Christian, he becomes a brand new person inside. He is not the same anymore. A new life has begun!” And in Romans 12:2 (NLT), “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”
Birds of a feather… The best way to attract better friends is to become a better person. Jesus will help you!