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Getting Even

| 1:39 MIN READ |

When was the last time someone offended you? Perhaps their actions or words hurt you deeply, left you bleeding emotionally and ignited anger in your soul. Now you can’t get the situation out of your mind. Something inside of you, if you’re honest, longs to pay them back for what they did to you. You want them to feel some of what you feel.

Grudges, revenge, resentment, malice, and hatred live in the hearts of many. We spend our time brewing, stewing and spewing about the painful things we’ve experienced, and how someone should pay for our pain.

The truth is, emotional wounds happen in life. People are treated terribly by other people at times. The pain is real, and at one level, the desire for revenge is a normal reaction. However, it’s not the right response.

The writer of Proverbs gives us God’s perspective on emotional pain. Look at Proverbs 20:22 (TPT) “Don’t ever say, ‘I’m going to get even with them if it’s the last thing I do!’ Wrap God’s grace around your heart, and he will be the one to vindicate you.”

When it comes to the damage inflicted on us, either we can pay back other’s hurtful actions, or we can let God pay back, but we can’t do both. For God to pay back, we must refuse to pay back. When we pay back, we get in the way of God’s justice. Our call is to walk in grace, love, and forgiveness, and leave the rest with God.

Martin Luther King, Jr. astutely and accurately reminded us of the foolishness of revenge when he said, “The old law about an eye for an eye leaves everybody blind.” Resentment, anger, and revenge blind us. Grace, love, and forgiveness open our eyes and hearts to God, and frees God to do what only He can do!

Pastor Dale

Long-term Living

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In 1967 a new breakfast and snack food was introduced to the world. We know it as Pop Tarts. At some point, you’ve probably tried one.

The attractive thing about the Pop Tart is how quickly you can prepare it. Here are the instructions for microwaving: “1. Place pastry on a microwave-safe plate. 2. Microwave on high setting for 3 seconds. 3. Cool briefly before handling.”

Yes, in 3 seconds it’s ready to eat! Or, if you prefer them room temperature, skip the microwave and sink your teeth in immediately! Fast, quick, immediate, now — all these words explain part of the popularity of the Pop Tart.

Our need for speed doesn’t stop with food; it’s part of modern life. We want what we want, and we want it now. Don’t ask us to wait. Don’t ask us to defer gratification. We have a “3-second rule!” Give it to us now.

The problem is, not all things are good for us right now. Some things are better later! This is what the Bible teaches us in Proverbs 20:21 (TPT) “If an inheritance is gained too early in life, it will not be blessed in the end.”

Solomon reminded us that back-end success is better than front-end success. A success quickly gained on the front end of life can be squandered and lost by poor choices along the way. Success gained on the back-end of life is likely accompanied by wisdom and character gained by time and experience. This allows a person to handle the blessings better.

We’ve all seen examples of this. Someone gets a big inheritance or financial opportunity at a young age, and in a reasonably short time, it’s gone — wasted. Why? They lacked the wisdom and experience to handle it.

We gain wisdom through time and experience. Indeed, there are plenty of old fools, and we’re all vulnerable to stupid decisions at any age, but quick, early prosperity has taken down many.

The lesson? Live for the long haul. Don’t spend your life focused on success. Focus on wisdom instead. If you get wisdom, you’ll discover true success in the end!

Pastor Dale

What Are You Accumulating?

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From time to time I go through my closet and get rid of clothes I no longer use, or, in many cases, clothes that no longer fit me! It’s easy to accumulate things we don’t need. It’s a good thing to winnow them.

We also accumulate things in life; spiritually, mentally, emotionally and materially. Sadly, we seldom take time to consider what we’re getting and keeping.

Take a look at what the writer of Proverbs says about this in Proverbs 20:15 (NLT) “Wise words are more valuable than much gold and many rubies.”

Quite often our attention is focused on accumulating material things — the “gold and rubies.” While the Bible never condemns possessions, it does regularly remind us to keep them in the right priority and perspective.

This verse tells us we’re better off getting wisdom rather than possessions. Good sense is something you can never have too much of. It positions us for genuine success in every realm of life.

Solomon understood this. As Israel’s new king, God gave Solomon an opportunity to ask for anything. Solomon asked for wisdom! God reminded Solomon that wisdom opens the door for every other life blessing.

What are you accumulating? Don’t go through life getting and holding on to things that aren’t of the highest importance. In your accumulations, first and foremost, get wisdom!

Pastor Dale

Loyal Friends

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What kind of friend do you most appreciate?

Friendships come in two categories — fair-weather friends and rainy-day friends. The differences are worth considering.

Fair-weather friends are people who come into your life with an agenda. They perceive that you have something they want. It might be influence, prestige, position or possessions, but they’re looking for a connection with you because it might benefit them. Folks like this are not always evil or destructive, they’re merely self-focused. As a general rule, once they get what they want, or discover you don’t have what they’re looking for, they are on their way to the next “friendship.”

The rainy-day friend is the person who’s not looking for what they get from you but desires to give, bless, help, support and encourage you. They’re with you when the sun’s shining and when the storms are raging. They’re loyal and trustworthy.

Take a look at the following verse that points to these two categories of friends in Proverbs 20:6 (TPT) “Many will tell you they’re your loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly trustworthy?”

One of the principles of life is the law of attraction. We tend to attract what we are. It’s not always the case, but when it comes to friendships, it’s important to ponder. If we’re fair-weather friends to others, the odds are that we’ll attract the same to us. And, if we are committed to others as true, rainy-day friends could it be that people with a similar heart will be drawn in our direction?

What lessons do we learn from all this? Three simple ones. First, set boundaries for fair-weather friends. Second, value your rainy-day friends. Third, be a loyal friend!

Pastor Dale

Winning Favor

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When was the last time someone did you a favor? Favor is a wonderful thing. We don’t get very far in life without favor along the way.

To impact the world and experience greatness, we must grow the attitudes that win favor –– the favor of God and man. There’s a wonderful story in the Bible about a lady who attracted favor. Take a look at the following verses in Esther 2:15-17 (NIV) “When the turn came for Esther … to go to the king, she asked for nothing other than what Hegai, the king’s eunuch who was in charge of the harem, suggested. And Esther won the favor of everyone who saw her. She was taken to King Xerxes …Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any of the other women, and she won his favor and approval more than any of the other virgins. So he set a royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti.”

Esther was presented to the king of Persia with the possibility that she could become the next queen. Her moment was successful because of the attitudes she practiced during the preparation process. She faithfully prepared herself over time. Her good attitudes didn’t start the day of her presentation, they were a consistent part of her days of preparation. Her attitudes prepared her for favor. At the right time, favor showed up because she had proven favorable!

What’s the lesson for us? Value your present opportunities by practicing the attitudes that attract favor. If your attitudes are consistently favorable, favor will show up in your life. People with favorable attitudes win favor!

Pastor Dale

A New View of You

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How you view you makes a big difference in the choices you make. The Old Testament story of Esther reminds us of this.

Esther was part of the remnant of Jews left in Persia from the time of the Babylonian Captivity. She lost her family and was raised by an older cousin named Mordecai. Esther could have allowed her disadvantages and difficulties to spiritually, mentally and emotionally cripple her and disqualify her from the possibility of being queen.

She didn’t do this. She refused to get caught in the terrible trap of stinking thinking about herself. Esther was able to respond well along the way because she was secure. She was not searching for security or identity, she was secure in who God created her to be.

There’s a powerful principle for us in this. Look at what the psalm writer said in Psalm 139:14 (NIV) “I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” David rejoiced in who God made him to be. He recognized his uniqueness, and notwithstanding his failures, weaknesses and needed areas of growth, he believed God had a special plan for his life. He was secure in his identity.

God wants you to be secure in who He created you to be. He wants you to know that you are loved by Him and, because of what Jesus Christ has done for you, and your faith in Him, you are secure in Him.

There is something lovely, attractive, and rich with possibilities and potential about your life. Believe that God has placed beauty in you! He sees beauty in you! Get God’s view of you. It will change the way you live!

Pastor Dale

React or Respond?

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Every situation in life comes with choices. We either react or respond to them. Reaction is emotion-driven. Response is thought and principle-driven.

There’s a great story in the Bible about two individuals named Mordecai and Esther. Esther came on the scene of history after the Persian king, Xerxes, deposed his queen in a moment of rage. A plan was put in motion to find a new queen. Esther was chosen to be a part of the beauty pageant that would determine the next Persian queen. She was a young Jewish girl living in a heathen environment. As a part of this process, Esther was expected to prepare to potentially spend the rest of her life with a king who was arrogant, demanding and temperamental.

It’s interesting to read how Esther prepared to meet this man. Look at this part of the story in Esther 2:8b-9 (NIV) “…Esther also was taken to the king’s palace and entrusted to Hegai, who had charge of the harem. The girl pleased him and won his favor. Immediately he provided her with her beauty treatments and special food. He assigned to her seven maids selected from the king’s palace and moved her and her maids into the best place in the harem.”

Thrown into very unusual and intimidating circumstances, Esther made a choice. She yielded herself. She became the best student Hegai had. Whatever he suggested, she did.

Although she didn’t realize it at the time, God had a plan for Esther. The Lord knew that one day a man named Haman would hatch a plot to destroy all of the Jews in Persia. God needed someone in place and prepared for that day. Esther’s preparation for that moment depended on how she responded to her situations along the way.

Because Esther responded well and cooperated with the process, she was prepared to shine when presented to the king. Because she chose to respond to her challenging situation, rather than negatively react to it, God’s plan unfolded for her life, and she was used by God to save a nation from annihilation.

Never underestimate the power of the right response!

Pastor Dale

Attitudes That Lift You Above Your Limits

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Human history has left a record of men and women, in both the limelight and obscurity, who made their world a better place! The Bible tells about two of these history changers –– Mordecai and Esther. They were used by God to rescue the Jews from destruction at a critical time in history. You can read their story in the Old Testament book of Esther.

What enabled these two people to change their world? They had the right attitudes. Instead of sulking, blaming, resenting, hating or self-destructing, they did something positive with their lives. Although they were in a very difficult environment and were limited by their background and heritage, their attitudes lifted them above their limits.

We all face adversities from our past, and challenges in our present. These can make or break us. They can destroy or develop us. They can make us sad and sour, or shape and strengthen us. We choose. Mordecai and Esther’s response to their situations made them history changers!

How do we turn our failures, frustration, and limitations into spiritual fertilizer? Make a decision to stop sulking, blaming, resenting, hating and self-destructing. Make the most of your lot in life. Believe that God will transform your pain into something positive, to help and bless others. Change your attitude. Develop the attitudes that lift you above your limits!

Pastor Dale

The Potential In Your Pain

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Someone once said, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!” Perhaps the adage can more accurately be stated, “What doesn’t kill you, CAN make you stronger!” The possibility is there, but the choice is ours. Problems, pain, and limitations provide us with potential character-building fertilizer if we respond the right way to them.

There’s a story in the Old Testament that teaches this. It’s the story of Esther and Mordecai. The story happens sometime between 486–465 B.C. in the ancient Persian empire. The Persian king, Xerxes, was perhaps the most powerful ruler in the world. In the 3rd year of his reign (483–482 B.C.) Xerxes called his key leaders together and threw a 180-days party for them. During the party the king’s relationship with his queen, Vashti, took a turn for the worse and king Xerxes banished her from his kingdom.

It’s with this background that Esther, a Jewish young lady also known as Hadassah, and her cousin Mordecai enter the picture. Esther 2:5-7 (NLT) “At that time there was a Jewish man in the fortress of Susa whose name was Mordecai son of Jair. He was from the tribe of Benjamin … His family had been among those who … had been exiled from Jerusalem to Babylon by King Nebuchadnezzar. This man had a very beautiful and lovely young cousin, Hadassah, who was also called Esther. When her father and mother died, Mordecai adopted her into his family and raised her as his own daughter.”

When Mordecai and Esther appear on the scene of history, they appear as people with limitations and problems. They were Jews living in Persia. Esther was an orphan. Mordecai’s family had been uprooted from their homeland by circumstances beyond their control. They experienced the pain of being exiled in a foreign land. Mordecai had taken on the responsibility as a young adult of providing, caring and raising his orphaned cousin.

Mordecai and Esther turned their limitations and pain into great potential and were used by God to change history. What about you? What are you doing with your limitations and pain? Are you grumbling or growing?

Pastor Dale

Time to Celebrate

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Unfortunately, the Bible has gotten a bad rap by many. It’s often viewed as a boring or gloomy book. Nothing is farther from the truth. The Bible is filled with stories of celebration and calls us to celebrate. It’s actually a roadmap to joyous living!

One of the reasons why people never discover joy is because they never personally get to know God. We often hold wrong concepts of God’s nature. We may think of Him as severe, angry, frustrated –– looking for a reason to judge and punish us –– a kind of cosmic killjoy. In reality, God is the Supreme Being of joy. He is the Fountainhead of joy. To be in His presence is to be in an atmosphere of indescribable, incredible joy. The psalmist says in Psalm 16:11-12 (NIV) “You have made known to me the path of life; You will fill me with joy in Your presence, with eternal pleasures at Your right hand.”

The highest form of celebration is the worship of God. When we get to know God and grow in our knowledge of Him, we automatically become a worshiper of Him. That’s why heaven is filled with worship!

Heaven is an environment filled with the presence of God. In heaven, the perfect holiness, glory, goodness, love, power and worthiness of God is fully known! Worship is simply celebrating the One who is the Source of all celebration. Worship is about enjoying God, not enduring Him. As we enjoy Him, He gives His joy to us!

Pastor Dale

Made to Contribute

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What is God’s plan for your life? Answering this question is one of the most important things you’ll ever do.

To understand God’s purpose for your life you must first understand something about God’s nature. One of the key characteristics of God is giving. God is a contributor. Giving is what He does because generous is what He is. He cannot, not give! God’s giving nature is reflected in many places in Scripture.

Not only is God a giver, He created us to give –– to be contributors. People are most healthy and happy when they are more than consumers; when they become true contributors. Many people never discover God’s purpose for their life because they never develop a spirit of giving. They never become generous in nature.

What keeps us from giving? It’s often because we feel we don’t have enough to offer someone else, or we don’t have anything of value to give. We yield to the fear of lack rather than the joy of generosity!

The decision to become a giver is one of the best decisions you will ever make. Listen to what Jesus said about this in Luke 6:38 (NLT) “If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving –– large or small –– it will be used to measure what is given back to you.”

You’re called by God to be a generous giver. As you give, doors open for you and God’s purpose is fulfilled through you!

Pastor Dale

Created to Overcome

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Winning is something we enjoy. It’s a great feeling to conquer an obstacle, overcome a challenge or beat back the odds. God made you to win!

Becoming a winner is a process. It requires skills, focus and intentional effort. In the spiritual realm, becoming an overcomer — a winner — is critical to finding and fulfilling your God-designed purpose.

This principle goes back to the beginning of time. When God placed Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, He gave them the responsibility to rule over it. God commanded them to conquer their environment. Look at God’s instructions to them in Genesis 1:28 (NIV) “God blessed them and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.’” God instructed Adam and Eve to take control of their circumstances. His plan for them was never basic survival, it was success! He created them to overcome. He designed them to be winners.

To fulfill God’s purpose, we all have things we need to conquer. It may be sinful habits, destructive thoughts, emotional pain or unhealthy life patterns. As these enemies are conquered, we find greater joy and become more fruitful. Our victories also encourage others to rise up and overcome!

What things do you need to conquer in your life? Go for it, with God’s grace and power! God created you to overcome!

Pastor Dale

Made for Relationships

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Relationships are a key theme in the Bible. Starting in the book of Genesis and running through the pages of Scripture, we’re taught the importance of connecting with others. Many of the principles and commands in Scripture help us improve our relationships with people around us.

We need one another. We need to connect. We need to belong. Jesus reminded us of these needs in Mark 12:29-31 (NLT) “Jesus replied, ‘The most important commandment is this: ‘Hear, O Israel! The Lord our God is the one and only Lord. And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.’ The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.” There’s something inside all of us that longs for relationships.

As wonderful as good relationships are, bad relationships can be devastating and destructive. Our relationship choices are very important. Who we connect with effects who we become and what we do with our lives. Making the right connections with people is critical. Our destiny is determined by the quality of our relationships. Proverbs 13:20 (NLT) “Whoever walks with the wise will become wise; whoever walks with fools will suffer harm.”

Here are some important questions to think about. Do you value your relationships? Are you making strong connections with the right people? Are you wisely choosing your friends? Are you nurturing the good relationships in your life? All of us can do better in these areas. When we improve our relationships, we improve our lives!

Pastor Dale

Prepared for Purpose

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God is a people God. He is intimately and personally concerned with people. This includes you! He knows you, loves you, and created you on purpose, for a purpose.

You’re not an accident. God made you for a reason! The Bible is very clear about God’s unique purpose for your life. Ephesians 2:10 (NLT) “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus so that we can do the good things He planned for us long ago.”

God planned things for your life. The unfolding of this plan starts with a personal relationship with God. He wants you to experience your full potential. For this to happen, you must get to know Him and grow in Him. You must also address things that stand in the way of fulfilling your potential.

All of us have sinful character flaws, messed-up thinking and painful life experiences that get in the way of us being all God created us to be. That’s why God wants to work on you, heal and restore you, and challenge you to change. He’s shaping you to be who He made you to be so that you can do what He created you to do.

The sooner and more completely we yield to God’s work in us, the sooner and more completely we discover more of His plan for us. When we cooperate with God, He transforms us, and we’re prepared to be all He created us to be and do what He created us to do.

Pastor Dale

Employed and Deployed

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It’s been said, if you have an important job that needs to be done, find someone who is busy to do it. The thought behind this statement is that productive people are busy people. Idle folks are ineffective folks.

This is true in God’s Kingdom. If you want to be used by God, you have to get busy working for God. Sitting on the sidelines doesn’t impress God. He’s looking for people who have rolled up their sleeves and willingly engage doing something worthwhile for the Kingdom.

When God chooses people for promotion in His Kingdom, He chooses the employed — the people who are busy in the work. Employment in the work of God leads to greater deployment in His work.

When Elijah was instructed to find Elisha to be his servant and successor, we learn a lot about him by observing what he was doing when Elijah approached him. Take a look at this part of the story in 1 Kings 19:19 (NIV) “So Elijah went from there and found Elisha … He was plowing with twelve yoke of oxen, and he himself was driving the twelfth pair …”

When God called Elisha, Elisha was a busy man. He was busy plowing, working, running his family’s farming operation. He was doing productive things with his life. His call from God was to simply shift his focus and energies from earthly work to heavenly work. God found a busy man and called a busy man. The employed man became a deployed man.

How productively are you living your life? If you want more with God, do your best with what He’s put in front of you now!

Pastor Dale

Up and Down

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One of the most difficult things to deal with in life is discouragement. Discouraged people are steps away from despair. Without intervention, a discouraged person is likely to give up and give in to their problems.

God wants to encourage you. He encourages you through the promises and examples of His love and grace in the Bible. God wants to encourage you today through His Word.

David gave us many powerful words of encouragement in the psalms. Let’s take a look at one today found in Psalm 18:16, 17 (NIV) “He reached down from on high and took hold of me; he drew me out of deep waters. He rescued me from my powerful enemy, from my foes, who were too strong for me.” Also, note verse 19 of the same chapter, “He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me.”

David described a time when King Saul was hot and heavy on his trail. His life was on the line. He was in a very low place emotionally. But David cried out to God. In his discouraging situation, David looked to God for help. What did God do?

As David looked up, God came down! Not only was David rescued by God, he was also ushered into a new and bigger place of blessing. When God came down for David, everything changed for the better!

Are you discouraged about something? Keep looking up. Keep crying out to God. As you look up to Him, you can be sure that He will come down to help you!

Pastor Dale