Video Devotionals

Friday, May 18, 2018

Forgive First

1:58 min read |

“You hurt me!” This is a common statement in relationships. If it’s not spoken, it’s most certainly felt.

Serious problems in relationships can almost always be traced to one common root—hurt. When our feelings get hurt, when we feel rejected, judged, disrespected, unloved, or are treated harshly or unkindly, our souls are wounded. Wounded souls, if not quickly healed, become angry, bitter souls. And angry, bitter souls retaliate—they seek revenge. A grudge relentlessly pursues payback—the payback of pain to the person who caused us pain.

Unfortunately, many relationships are caught in this downward cyclone of hurt, retaliation, more hurt, and more retaliation. Massive walls of resentment and bitterness are built over time. Trust is lost. People end up living isolated, angry, pain-filled lives. There must be a better way.

There is. The only cure for such an ugly existence is forgiveness. Forgiveness is the only thing that can clear and cure the soul of such hurt and resentment. It opens the heart to the grace of God that heals and restores. While it may not fix the other person, forgiveness fixes you. It takes you out of the hellish pull of hurt and hatred. It takes the poison out of your spirit.

Listen to the words of Paul, the apostle, in Ephesians 4:31, 32 (NLT) “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”

What is forgiveness? It’s not excusing the bad behavior of someone. It’s the choice to release justice to God. It’s letting go, by a decision of your will, of the hurt and resentment you feel. It is extending to someone who has caused you pain the same grace God has extended to you, although you have caused Him pain by your sins.

When hurt, forgive first! Forgiveness will heal you and will help you build healthier relationships.

Pastor Dale

Thursday, May 17, 2018

Be an Over-Looker

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Are you an over-looker?

Dictionary.com defines “overlook” as a verb meaning “to fail to notice, perceive, or consider; to disregard or ignore indulgently.”

When it comes to relationships, we would do well to become good “over-lookers.” Relationships don’t work well when one or both people are highly critical, highly attentive fault-finders. They are more peaceful and productive when we learn to overlook the faults of one another.

This starts with a very important awareness and acknowledgment. Everyone has faults. Everyone has weaknesses. Everyone has limitations. No one is perfect. To get along with others, we have to give space for their faults. A critical spirit is never constructive. While there are moments when honest feedback helps us grow, continual reminders of weaknesses, faults and failures have the opposite effect.

Paul, the apostle, gave us these relationship instructions in Colossians 3:13 (NLT) “…Make allowance for each other’s faults…”

What does this mean? It means that we overlook the faults of another person that we could point out; that we could make an issue. We treat other people the way we want to be treated. We give people the grace we long for!

Are you an over-looker or a fault-finder? Do you have a critical spirit or a gracious spirit? To build good relationships over-look faults. Give people grace. You’ll be amazed at the difference this will make!

Pastor Dale

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

It’s About You

1:41 min read |

Who is the most important person in your relationships? You are!

Yes, whether you realize it or not, healthy relationships start with healthy people. If you don’t grow yourself, take responsibility for your own issues, develop your own character, and keep yourself spiritually, emotionally, and even physically healthy, your relationships will suffer.

Quite often relationships come to a standstill—a stand-off—because of a terrible tendency we all have—the tendency to place the blame for relationship problems on the other person. It’s always easier to adopt the “villain—victim” mindset. And the common view in relationships is that we’re the victim and the other person is the villain.

While there are times and situations when and where we find ourselves dealing with very bad people—true villains—in most of our relationships, our problems are the result of two sinful, broken people who need to pay attention to their personal growth and maturity. When two people in a relationship stop blaming one another and start responsibly owning their brokenness and failures, hope for improvement comes.

Look at what Jesus said about this in Matthew 7:3-5 (NLT) “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.’”

Who is the most important person in your relationships? You are! When you’re healthier and holier, your relationships get happier!

Pastor Dale

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Build Up or Tear Down?

1:20 min read |

How do you build a strong, healthy relationship with someone?

Every relationship has it’s challenges. To make relationships work, we must do the work. A significant ingredient in relationship success is the ratio between words and actions that build up and encourage versus those that tear down and discourage.

Research has proven that, for every negative, destructive statement or action in a relationship there must be five positives to counteract them. To make relationships work well we must deposit 5 times the amount of positives in the emotional accounts of people!

Suddenly our relationship problems make sense. More often than not, the ratio is reversed. There are 5 negatives for every positive, and we wonder why things aren’t going so well.

The wisdom of God’s Word becomes clear in the light of this research. In Ephesians 4:31, 32 (NLT) we find these instructions, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”

Are you building up others or tearing them down? Get busy generously pouring out positive, kind, and caring words and actions to others. Reverse the ratio in your relationships and watch great things happen!

Pastor Dale

Monday, May 14, 2018

It Starts With Commitment

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How do you build a strong, healthy relationship with someone?

Whether it’s a marriage, a friendship or a business partnership, all relationships need a solid foundation. An essential part of good, lasting relationships is commitment—mutual commitment.

Relationships are built when 2 people move beyond the emotions of attraction or affinity to a point of commitment. Commitment holds relationships together, even when feelings and circumstances could drive them apart. It’s what creates loyalty, fidelity, and faithfulness between two people.

There’s a lady in the Bible who gives us an insightful perspective of commitment. Her name is Ruth. In the Old Testament book that bears her name, Ruth makes this amazing statement to her mother-in-law Naomi, when Naomi gave Ruth the option of staying in her homeland instead of moving to Israel with her, “Don’t ask me to leave you and turn back. Wherever you go I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord punish me severely if I allow anything but death to separate us!” (Ruth 1:16, 17 NLT)

That’s commitment. When there is mutual commitment in a relationship, there is a foundation for success!

Pastor Dale

Friday, May 11, 2018

Overcoming Loneliness

1:14 min read |

How lonely are you?

Not too long ago the Prime Minister of Great Britain made an interesting appointment that reflects an alarming trend in today’s culture. A “Minister for Loneliness” was employed.

It’s hard to believe that in a world with so many ways to connect and communicate, with multiple social networks available, and with more mobility than any other time in history, has a loneliness epidemic. It has been given “health crisis” status. One expert on the subject observed that loneliness has proven to be worse for a person’s health than smoking 15 cigarettes a day!

How do we address this problem? More specifically, how can you deal with loneliness in your life?

Here are three suggestions:

1. Know that you’re never alone. God is with you. Jesus said, “… I am with you always…” (Matthew 28:20).

2. Connect with God’s people in His church. Become a part of a spiritual community. Hebrews 10:25 reminds us to “…not neglect our church meetings…”

3. Reach out and befriend others. Proverbs 18:24 provides us this wisdom, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly.” Jesus said, “Give, and it will be given to you…” (Luke 6:38)

Don’t settle for a life of loneliness. Take action to overcome it!

Pastor Dale

Thursday, May 10, 2018

How to Get More Time

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Are you feeling stressed out by the busyness of life? Is the pressure of having lots to do, and too little time to do it, weighing on you?

One of the most precious things we have is time. It can’t be accumulated. Once it comes, it goes, and there’re no getting it back. Every day there are many things grabbing for your time and attention.

There’s only one way to get more time. It’s to use time more effectively. It’s not that we become 24/7 workhorses, it’s that we become better time stewards. It’s that we learn to use our time in more purposeful ways.

To live in a purposeful way is to live by preset priorities rather than by spur of the moment decisions. It means that you think about and know what’s most important to you. It means that you establish a life plan and a daily schedule that reflects your predetermined commitments.

Why is living this way so important? Because it’s living on purpose. It’s the only way to make your time and life really count. It’s taking charge of your life in a good way, instead of allowing life to take charge of you.

Jesus taught us about the power of determining life priorities and living by them in Luke 12:34 (TLB) “Wherever your treasure is, there your heart and thoughts will also be.”

Jesus reminded us that what you treasure, what you determine is worthwhile, valuable, important and of high priority, will determine what you invest your resources into. He was teaching us that right priorities should lead our lives.

How about you? Is your time drained by whatever pressing things come along, by constant urgent demands on it, or are you living by predetermined priorities? To gain more time, put your time to good use. Live on purpose!

Pastor Dale

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Getting Unstuck

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Have you felt stuck recently? Sometimes life becomes a rut. We get stuck in some situation, in some bad cycle of interaction with someone, or in some kind of negative emotion that we can’t seem to shake. The harder we try to get out, the deeper we get.

Ruts may be spiritual, mental, emotional or relational, but they are very real, and they get us down. They slowly rob us of hope. We wonder if we’ll ever get out.

When hope grows dim, you grow weary. It’s hard to keep going, to keep trying, to continue working at something when nothing is changing. When hope dwindles, everything inside us screams, “Quit! Give up!”

What do you do to get out of a rut? How do you get unstuck from things that have mired you down and stopped your progress? The answer is in one word. You learn to persevere! You keep going. You keep praying. You refuse to give up!

Look at what Jesus said in Luke 18:1 (NLT) “One day Jesus told His disciples a story to show that they should always pray and never give up.” A key part of getting unstuck from your rut is persevering in prayer. Keep on praying. Don’t give up. You’re going to come out of your rut!

Pastor Dale

Tuesday, May 8, 2018

How to be Happy

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While the word “happy” may sound shallow or superficial, happiness really is something everyone longs for. It’s an internal sense of fulfillment and well-being. Although happiness is different than joy, it is something we do well to develop.

What does it take to be happy? The truth is, external things never create long-term happiness or joy. A deep sense of fulfillment and well-being is always the result of internal attitudes and good, godly habits.

Here are four things that are guaranteed to increase your level of happiness:

1. Get connected to God and good people. Don’t be a loner.

2. Consistently count your blessings. Be grateful.

3. Be a contributor. Give your time, treasure, and talents to God and others.

4. Be content. Stop comparing your lot in life with anyone else’s. Be the person God made you to be and do your best with the opportunities He has provided you.

Happiness is the result of practicing the right habits, not having all the right happenings in your life!

Pastor Dale

Monday, May 7, 2018

4 Ways to Heal from a Broken Relationship

1:12 min read |

Relationship problems are part of life. When relationships are stressed and strained, we have a responsibility to do what we can to heal them. Restoring damaged relationships is an important part of spiritual growth. As a basic life principle, running from relational pain is not the best option.

Yet in real life, some relationships do break. Even when you work hard to find healing, some people refuse to respond. Paul, the apostle, explained our responsibility in relationships in Romans 12:18 (NIV) “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”

The truth is, not everyone is willing to be at peace with you. So what do you do when relationships are irreparably broken?

Here are four things you can do to heal from a broken relationship:

1. Forgive—the other person and yourself. Hold no grudges or dysfunctional guilt.

2. Grieve the loss with the goal of getting past it.

3. Capture key lessons you learned from the experience.

4. Reach out again. Don’t stop loving, living or giving. Don’t let a broken relationship cause you to give up on all relationships!

You can heal from a broken relationship. It’s not the end, but an opportunity for a new beginning!

Pastor Dale

Friday, May 4, 2018

S – is for Success

2:08 min read |

Focus is an important key to life. Many people fail in life, or certainly, miss their highest and best potential, all because of a lack of focus.

This week we’re focusing on “focus!” Each day this week I’m providing you a key description of one aspect of focus and the benefits it brings to us. We’ll be using an acronym for the 5 points.

What is focus all about? First, it’s about force. Focus is what gives force or power to your life. Second, focus is about ownership. Ownership is owning the responsibility for your life, your decisions, your growth and your future.

Thirdly, focus is about clarity. When something is brought into focus it becomes sharper, clearer, more well-defined.

Fourthly, focus is about unity. Focus requires alignment of all of our being toward something—spirit, soul, heart, mind and body. It’s about being “all in” to whatever is a priority in life.

The fifth element of focus is SUCCESS. The goal of focus is success, victory, accomplish, overcoming, advancing—genuinely succeeding in your areas of focus.

To stay focused you must keep the end in mind and in sight. You must envision the end goal, while still pursuing it. Whatever objective you’re focusing on, see yourself succeeding, conquering, overcoming and finishing strong! Use your eyes of faith to look into the future and claim victory. See yourself getting to the end and receiving the crown. Decide that you’re not going to quit until the battle is won and breakthrough comes!

The apostle Paul lived this way. Listen to what he wrote to Timothy near the end of his life in 2 Timothy 4:7, 8 (NLT) “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful. And now the prize awaits me—the crown of righteousness, which the Lord the righteous Judge, will give me on the day of His return. And the prize is not just for me but for all who eagerly look forward to His appearing.”

To stay focused, keep your eyes on winning. Keep your eyes on victory and success in your pursuits!

To summarize, focus is all about:
F — Force.
O — Ownership.
C — Clarity.
U — Unity.
S — Success.

Pastor Dale

Thursday, May 3, 2018

U – is for Unity

1:32 min read |

Focus is an important key to life. Many people fail in life, or certainly, miss their highest and best potential, all because of a lack of focus.

This week we’re focusing on “focus!” Each day this week I’m providing you a key description of one aspect of focus and the benefits it brings to us. We’ll be using an acronym for the 5 points.

What is focus all about? First is about force. Focus is what gives force or power to your life. Second, focus is about ownership. Ownership is owning the responsibility for your life, your decisions, your growth and your future.

Thirdly, focus is about clarity. When something is brought into focus it becomes sharper, clearer, more well-defined.

Fourthly, focus is about UNITY. Focus requires alignment of all of our being toward something—spirit, soul, heart, mind and body. It’s about being “all in” to whatever is a priority in life. Being “partly in” never produces full results. “Partly in” produces partial results. If you’re “partly” committed to an exercise plan, it also means that you’re partly “not committed!” Don’t expect great results. This is true in any area of life.

Focus means “I’m all in with something. My entire being is in unity with the goal, the objective, the pursuit.”

Jesus spoke of this in Mark 12:30 (NIV) “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” Bring everything to the table. Leave nothing on the field. Be all in—unified in your pursuit of God and His will. This is focus!

Pastor Dale

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

C – is for Clarity

1:32 min read |

Focus is an important key to life. Many people fail in life, or certainly, miss their highest and best potential, all because of a lack of focus.

This week we’re focusing on “focus!” Each day this week I’m providing you a key description of one aspect of focus and the benefits it brings to us. We’ll be using an acronym for the 5 points.

What is focus all about? First is about force. Focus is what gives force or power to your life. Second, focus is about ownership. Ownership is owning the responsibility for your life, your decisions, your growth and your future.

Thirdly, focus is about CLARITY. When something is brought into focus it becomes sharper, clearer, more well-defined.

When it comes to life, you can’t effectively focus on lots of different things simultaneously. When you try to focus on too many things, you lose focus on everything. Real life focus happens when we zero in, tune up, target the main things.

I call this the “kingpin principle.” In bowling, the object is to powerfully direct the bowling ball to one pin—the kingpin. If the kingpin falls, it will take lots of other pins, and perhaps all the other 9 pins with it!

Find the “kingpins” in your life, and focus on them. Get clarity on what’s really important, and go after it! Paul wrote about this in Philippians 3:13, 14 (NIV) “…one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”

Pastor Dale

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

O – is for Ownership

1:29 min read |

Focus is an important key to life. Many people fail in life, or certainly miss their highest and best potential, all because of a lack of focus.

This week we’re focusing on “focus!” Each day this week I’m providing you a key description of one aspect of focus and the benefits it brings to us. We’ll be using an acronym for the 5 points.

What is focus all about? First is about force. Focus is what gives force or power to your life. Second, focus is about OWNERSHIP. Ownership is owning the responsibility for your life, your decisions, your growth and your future. It involves letting go of the victim mindset, the entitlement mindset, the “poor me” mindset and the helplessness mindset and setting a course for life that’s responsible. Owning life is being responsible for your life. It is not letting the past hang over your present and future. It is a “no excuses” approach to living.

You cannot focus on improving your life, your relationship with God or others without ownership. Focus says, “I’m owning my responsibilities to grow, learn, change, develop, mature, and move forward. I know God is going to help me, as I choose to do my part.”

Peter the apostle called us to focus on spiritual ownership in 2 Peter 3:18 (NIV) “But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ…” Note the emphasis is on the implied pronoun; “You take the responsibility—the ownership—to grow!”

Focus won’t work without ownership!

Pastor Dale

Monday, April 30, 2018

F – is for Force

1:17 min read |

Focus is an important key to life. Many people fail in life, or certainly, miss their highest and best potential, because of a lack of focus.

This week we’re focusing on “focus!” Each day this week I’m providing you a key description of one aspect of focus and the benefits it brings to us. We’ll be using an acronym for the 5 points.

What is focus all about? First, it’s about FORCE. Focus is what gives force or power to your life. Any time you want to increase the power of something, all you need to do is to increase its focus. Whatever thoughts you focus on, you give the most power to. Whatever activities you focus on, you give power to. Whatever habits you focus on, will determine the person you become and the life you’ll experience.

Focus is the discipline that brings force, power, and impact to your life. When you focus on the right priorities, your life will have more impact, now and for eternity. Paul said it this way in Colossians 3:1, 2 (GW) “Since you were brought back to life with Christ, focus on things that are above [things that have eternal worth and value], where Christ holds the honored position… Keep your minds on things above, not on worldly things.”

To add greater force to your life, add greater focus to your life!

Pastor Dale

Friday, April 27, 2018

Peacemaker or Troublemaker

Are you a peacemaker or a troublemaker?

At some level, we’re always creating peace or causing trouble for the people around us. Without realizing it, we set an atmosphere by what’s going on inside of us. When we’re troubled, upset, agitated, we pass that on to others.

The opposite is also true. When we’re at peace, quiet and restful in our souls, we pass this on too.

That’s part of what Jesus was talking about when He spoke these words in Matthew 11:28, 29 (NLT) “Then Jesus said, ‘Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

To be around Jesus is to be around a rested, peaceful soul. When we hang around with Him, His spirit positively infects us. We find rest every time we’re in His presence.

In a similar way, when we’re at rest and peace, others will be positively infected with the peace radiating from our lives. We can become true peacemakers, instead of troublemakers to others.

Pastor Dale