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Getting Even

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“Even” is an interesting word. It means, “on the same level; equal in measure or quantity” ( The concept of “even” is often applied to our relationships. When hurt or offended by something someone says, does or fails to do, we often want to get “even.” We want to equalize the pain. The thought is, “Whatever measure of problems or hurt you’ve caused me, the same should come back to you!” It’s called “getting even,” and we all have the tendency to desire and seek it.

This impulse to get even will continue to harass and haunt you until you get offenses out of your heart. You’ll be preoccupied with payback as long as you hold on to and nurse the grudges you have toward someone. Revenge will drive your thoughts and feelings. It will fuel the fires of anger inside you. It will make you restless and miserable.

One of the best ways to be free from the “getting even” syndrome is to say no to revenge — to respond differently. Look at how Peter described this choice in 1 Peter 3:9 (NLT) “Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead pay them back with a blessing. This is what God has called you to do, and he will bless you for it.”

Are you upset with someone? Are you holding on to a grudge? Is something inside you demanding that you “get even?” Stop! Change your response. The right payback is with blessing! Do it, and you’ll find God showing up for you in a big way!

Pastor Dale