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Relationships are both simple and complex. They are “simply complex!” One of the major myths of relationships is that if they are real, meant-to-be, they will just happen. We have put relationships in the category of the unexplainable. When a relationship “works” it’s because of some mystical, magical kind of chemistry and “soul connection.”

While it certainly is true that chemistry and compatibility sometimes exist in relationships, and these elements make the relationship require less maintenance, not all relationships will have these elements, or should have them. The majority of relationships in your life will not happen automatically. They will require effort to build and maintain. Connecting with others in a relationship requires something from you!

God gave us relationship principles, truths, guidance, and wisdom. He told us how to build, grow, develop healthy relationships. In the book of Colossians 3:12-15a (NIV), the Apostle Paul notes, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts…”

The sooner you recognize and admit that good, strong relationships do not just happen, somewhat mystically and magically — the sooner this romantic deception is broken in your life — the more prepared you will be to build healthy and fulfilling relationships.

Pastor Dale

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