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Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Changing Your Self-Talk

Whether we realize it or not, we are constantly carrying on a conversation with ourselves. Inside our heads and hearts there is ongoing communication.  Our spiritual and emotional health is determined by the content, tone and tenor or this dialogue.  This is sometimes referred to as “self-talk.”

Our self-talk can help us or hurt us.  When we speak the right things to ourselves we are strengthened and encouraged.  When our internal conversations are negative and demeaning, our spirit is deflated and demoralized.  We are weakened on the inside.

Many people continually barrage themselves with abusive, destructive self-talk.  Their worst enemy is their own words.  They are taken down by the things they say to themselves about themselves and about others.  They live defeated lives, not realizing that they are sabotaging the changes, victories and breakthroughs they long for by their own internal declarations and proclamations.

Let’s take a look at an example of this in the Bible.

The prophet Jeremiah lived during a very tough time in Judah’s history.  His pain over the spiritual condition of God’s people is recorded in the book of Lamentations.  He had lots of reasons to be discouraged and to give up hope as he observed the idolatry and wickedness of the nation.  But Jeremiah learned and practiced a spiritual principle that kept him going amidst the horrible and ugly circumstances around him.  Take a look at his words:

Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope:  Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.  They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, “The LORD is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.”  The LORD is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him;  it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the LORD.  — Lamentations 3:21-26

Please pay attention to the phrase. “I say to myself … “

How did Jeremiah make it through the tough times?  He monitored his self-talk.  He made a conscious decision to say the right things to himself.  Over and over again, Jeremiah declared to himself, “The Lord is my portion … “ He was careful about what he said to himself!

What about you?  Have you monitored your self-talk recently?  Are you carrying on conversations with yourself that are sabotaging your spiritual and emotional health?  Are you speaking God’s truth to yourself or are you trafficking in lies from your spiritual adversary?

Make a decision to change your self-talk.  Speak God’s truth to yourself and watch the difference it will make!

Pastor Dale

Monday, August 11, 2008

Mom, Dad and Ministry

 

Today my wife and I had the opportunity to spend some time with my parents.  Mom and dad have been involved in pastoral church ministry since the early 1950’s.  As we talked, I asked Dad what he personally considered to be some of the most rewarding things about ministry life.

As he reflected back over the years, I heard real joy in his voice as he reminisced about some of the people he had the privilege of leading to the Lord, some who have gone on to heaven and many others who continue to serve the Lord today.  He spoke of several of these folks by name, and with genuine affection.  I could sense the pleasure and satisfaction he felt in knowing that he had made and continues to make a difference with his life for the sake God’s Kingdom and people.

As I reflected on their 50+ years of pastoral life and experiences, I was reminded of some of the things I believe to be essential keys to effective ministry.  At the top of list is a love for people.  To have an effective ministry a person must possess a true love for people and for their welfare, now and eternally.  Mom and dad certainly demonstrate this kind of love.

Second, effective ministry is the result of a commitment to stick with it — living and serving with endurance and faithfulness.  Mom and dad, by their example, have proved that fruitfulness and fulfillment come with a lifetime of faithful service to God and others.

I am so very proud of my parents.  Through the tough and challenging times of ministry, as well as the joyous times, I have watched them live with integrity, passion, commitment and incredible love for the local church.  What an example they have set for me, and I honor them!

Pastor Dale